5 Tips on How to be a Better Communicator 4U
- Maree Mcmanaway
- Feb 23
- 2 min read
Every single day you wake up on this earth and make many choices.
Like choosing to take 1 minute to read this ...
Hello and always a big hearted welcome to you.
Thank you for being here.
Often my clients are speaking of communication difficulties... one being how you get along with your fellow man.
Another is how you fit in , and thirdly, how to contribute.
So
Most try not to fuck it up..Yet many end up making a bad situation worse
Like arguing with someone who is incapable of recieiving..
As you can imagine, there are different kinds of responses that can be made, rather than just reactions.
Some people are irrational, fueled by rage or hurt—drugs or booze—and are utterly mentally or heartbrokenly blind.
There are those who get off fanning some kind of revenge
There are the ones void of any empathy who enjoy the fight or are just bored bullies
Some people define winning as total control, while many others are simply tired. Decision fatigue too often lessens a fair outcome.
Understand that these behaviours NEVER work long-term, and you simply add fuel to the fire.
HOW TO BE A BETTER COMMUNICATOR.
1.Sometimes the best response or communication is none.. not replying- knowing that sometimes there is no point of return, and that's ok.
2.Sometimes it's time to try something new...Upskill yourself..?
work with a coach;
Or
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3.Try asking soft questions that clarify what's so critical to the other person (stepping into their pain) rather than judging it; instead try active listening- you sometimes get further listening that sprouting off with a thinking ahead agenda already set in your mind.
4. Then you are more able to walk into anothers pain or conflict ..to ensure you truly get where they are at.
5. Don't react; take time to pause, reflect, and allow the mud to settle in the puddle before you respond...so as not to make a permanent decision whilst in a temporary emotional state.
Ultimately, how do you invite love into this situation??
Where it is dark, painful, or stressful, there is still love and a better way forward. Dissolving and soothing another's struggle is a gift some can manage, while others cannot.
In this time Ego must be ignored.
Its a delicate dance of what do you want to have happen for the best possible outcome for all involved.
Its not a test of manhood or whos vocab is bigger than others- we all bleed just the same
Its not a chance to be some knight in shining armor- its a chance to be human to human, heart to heart,
In the end, we all want similar things.
To be loved, heard, appreciated.
To have something to do, and something to look forward to.
Lets appreciate life and each other as the unique individuals we all are..
Life is a wonderful place to be curious and adventurous in.. It's a gift like no other that we all share. that we are supposed to be learning with challenges involved sure, yet also with kindness and compassion.
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Im walking with you all the way.
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