TIPS on ADULTING:
- Maree Mcmanaway
- 2 days ago
- 2 min read
MAREES MOTIVATIONAL MAGIC
Understand life through the wisdom of the ages, but view life through the eyes of a child.
Hello and always a warm hearted welcome to this community service.
You don’t just become an adult when you turn 18.
Adulting is a process. It takes lots of trial and error and at times huge lessons and reminders from life.
Although we grow up and acquire tools, responsibilities, and commitments, deep inside we can still be children who snap back whenever we encounter resistance or triggers. Our inner child can become reactive, just in a larger body.
We might pout, whine, and complain, as we did as kids.
Adulting is a practice. It takes years to become aware of our inner child and to stop letting who we used to be or how we were treated dictate who we are now, today.
Also our definition of “adult” changes.
What we thought was "adult" a couple of years ago may not be today. For example, me acting like an idiot with my friends, telling inappropriate jokes and sending ridiculous texts. I would have labelled that immature a few years ago.
But today, I believe we need some silly in our lives. It makes us not take ourselves so seriously.
Below are suggestions/guides to refer to when you find yourself struggling with your adult-ness.
1. Don’t be a jerk.
While kids can react, throw peas at the wall, and have temper tantrums. This is part of their growth process. Yet as we get older we need to learn that those reactions won’t serve us. As an adult, you have the capacity to pause and choose differently.
Being a jerk is a choice and a reaction. If you want to be an adult, there is no excuse for it.
Respond, don't react to people.
Think about how your words and actions will affect others as well as yourself.
2. Practise the "Traffic Light Theory" Stop, Reflect, Respond tool, ( if you don't know this tool, simply email me). There are many other techniques we have covered over our years together.
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