I've heard it said and many times, what is said cannot be unsaid. What is done , cannot be undone. Yet what we can learn from difficult communications has the potential to be empowering. Who among us doe not seek to live in a more harmoniously healthy connective way with our fellow man. So chose your listener wisely Share your words wisely.
Below are go to tips to support your practice to achieve that goal.
Stop,n Reflect, before your Respond; Speak as if the other person involved could hear it...respect is a beautiful thing Remain silent, and or state that you do not want to participate in the discussion you are not in agreement of , or recognize it as pure toxicity. Seek the facts- does this person know this to be completely true? Often the topic it is a fraction of truth at best. No matter how thinly you slice bread - there are always to sides to it- people are no different. Protect yourself and excuse yourself to disassociate - I like the quiet elegance of this one- Say something like "oh is that the time, I have an appointment". Remember that those who are prone to gossip of another - are prone to also gossip of you- is that the type of person you seek in your life? Speak of another as you wish to be spoken of yourself. Say something kind! PRACTICE the skill/strength of living/speaking in kindness
CHALLENGE- Try it for 24 hours- to recognize what level you are currently on. 'Opinions are like "#Nipples"' while yes ,we all have them - it does not mean they all serve a suppose that we need to latch on to..so when you hear something you dont want to- simply say to yourself - well that a fine set of "Nipples" -and I aint latching- yes that' s right - I added some humor at the end... 😉 Lets be decent human beings out there.. x
